1 is better than 3 is better than 20

Photo by Cengizhan Konu? on Unsplash

I’ve been thinking for a long time that there is just too much stuff in our house. I spend so much time shuffling the stuff, rearranging the stuff, lifting the stuff off the floor and stuffing it back into someone’s overstuffed cubbie.

So. Much. Stuff.

In what I thought was a wholly unrelated move, this week I finally read Cal Newport’s Deep Work.

And then this research dropped into my inbox: An overabundance  of toys may stifle toddler creativity. It’s a tiny study, but the results back up that anti-stuff urge I’ve been feeling. Give a kid 16 toys, he plays with about half, for a minute each. Give him 4, he plays with 3, for longer and in different ways.

it’s that link to more creative play that makes the connection to the book Deep Work. With less things to concentrate on–fewer distractions–we are more able to focus for longer on the work that’s at the core of our goals, Professor Newport suggests–but that takes practice. We need to place ourselves in environments where our options (in adult cases, usually our Internet) are limited, and then push through the resulting discomfort until we learn again what it is to sink into the flow state we need.

in other words, with too many distractions around–too much stuff–we humans lose or don’t develop our ability to concentrate.

Why does this fall into the “mistake” category for me? We had a ton of toys in our house when my kids were little. The place was practically a preschool. Now, I see that I didn’t want to buy toys, I wanted to buy time. I thought they would play with the toys and give me a few minutes to gather my thoughts.

Turns out I had it exactly wrong. Once we have enough of the necessities, we all—grown people and small people alike—can do more for longer when we are surrounded by less.


You know I’m grateful when you share. Click here to tweet this:

We buy too many toys because we want to buy time. Turns out, kids play longer with less, and they might be learning more in the process.

Or here for a Facebook share, and thanks.

If you’re just stopping by, and you’re in need of Ten Mantras for Happier Parents (who isn’t?)–click here. I’d love to send them your way.

One Response to “1 is better than 3 is better than 20”

  1. Jean Raniseski, Ph.D. says:

    Please add me to your list.

Check out In Her Boots!

You see a sexist jerk, the voice of the Modern Pioneer girl whispered in my head. I see a teaching opportunity.

There's nothing my inner super-hero likes more than being understimated.


A free first chapter awaits!

Sign up for a free first chapter