Connecting the Dots

Damn, Did I Forget to Feed Her?

By KJ / Wednesday, March 16, 2005

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The Draft Card

By KJ / Thursday, May 19, 2005

I just heard one Elaine Donnelly from the Center for Military Readiness describe, for NPR listeners, exactly why it’s important that Congress pass a bill codifying Defense Department policy which excludes women from units which participate in direct armed conflicts. Before we get to Ms. Donnelly, why is this happening now? Pentagon policy also excludes women from units which “collocate routinely” (that is to say, move) with combat units, and apparently there’s a sense that in Iraq, units including women […]

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In which I give the dead past a little tickle

By KJ / Wednesday, October 12, 2005

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And Another Thing

By KJ / Tuesday, March 7, 2006

Well, that last post was perky, wasn’t it? Nothing like a good attitude…(and that was nothing like…). Well, here’s another thing I’m not so crazy about in this, the last few weeks of pregnancy: I hate the publicity of the whole thing. Oddly, for a blogger, I’m a very private person, and there is really nothing private about being nine months pregnant. It’s part of the reason I’m always so reluctant to tell people my actual due date. I don’t […]

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Joining the Fray

By KJ / Thursday, May 25, 2006

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Sam at his holiday concert.

By KJ / Tuesday, December 12, 2006

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I Think I Will Just Rename the Website ENVY

By KJ / Tuesday, March 13, 2007

I belong to The Well and mostly frequent a really good freelancer group there, where I am middling to low on a totem pole that includes regular writers for Vogue, Wired and Salon but also people who don’t really see their byline in the national pubs very often, if at all. I love being a part of it. Today, I read an announcement that a fellow byliner just sold her first novel in a “major deal”. I was over the […]

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At the Biltmore house in NC

By KJ / Saturday, September 22, 2007

At the Biltmore house in NC Originally uploaded by kjda. KJ

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Lily and her haunted house

By KJ / Friday, October 26, 2007

Lily and her haunted house Originally uploaded by kjda. KJ

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I Just Grasped the Caucus System (and I don’t like it)

By KJ / Thursday, January 3, 2008

I am having a moment of sudden understanding–and thus sudden anger–about the Iowa caucus. How can this be the way we want things done? Here’s my problem with the caucus system: What if everyone in Iowa wanted to participate? I know, that’s crazy, but let’s just say they did. Not possible. What if you’re on dialysis? How many 17-year-old babysitters are there to go around? Who will man the 911 system, the emergency room, the quickie mart. What if you’re […]

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Why I Can’t Read

By KJ / Saturday, March 8, 2008

Actually I have no idea why I can’t read. What I do know is that I get those codes on blogs and groups–the ones that prove you’re human–wrong about half the time. Which would make me half human.

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A meal I can’t get in Hanover

By KJ / Saturday, April 12, 2008

A meal I can’t get in Hanover Originally uploaded by kjda. KJ Dell’Antonia (Please attribute any drastic spelling and punctuation errors to my poor thumb-typing and creative autocorrect.)

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Lily’s spring concert

By KJ / Thursday, June 5, 2008

Lily’s spring concert Originally uploaded by kjda. KJ Dell’Antonia (Please attribute any drastic spelling and punctuation errors to my poor thumb-typing and creative autocorrect.)

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Lily and Wyatt at Fratello’s

By KJ / Thursday, July 31, 2008

Lily and Wyatt at Fratello’s Originally uploaded by kjda. The funny thing is that It was Wyatt’s idea. KJ Dell’Antonia (Please attribute any drastic spelling and punctuation errors to my poor thumb-typing and creative autocorrect.)

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Happy Birthday Mom!

By KJ / Sunday, October 19, 2008

I was glad you liked the kids singing. They were so pleased with themselves. And Sam really liked playing his piano into the phone to you. I don’t think that had ever occurred to him before. It was almost like you were here! Rob got everyone into pajamas tonight by sheer force of personality, since he can’t really manhandle them. I find that as exhausting as just sitting on them and doing it myself. Having him able to do it […]

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Après ski nap

By KJ / Saturday, January 3, 2009

Après ski nap Originally uploaded by kjda. KJ Dell’Antonia

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Spring at Duke

By KJ / Saturday, April 4, 2009

Spring at Duke, originally uploaded by kjda. And at home, not soon enough! Don’t you LOVE this time of year? KJ Dell’Antonia sent from my iPhone

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The Double Trailer Bike

By KJ / Monday, May 11, 2009

Today we acquired a–doubly used–double trailer bike. Also known as a double tag-a-long bike. In essence, it’s a tandem tag-a-long, because the riders must pedal in unison (although not with the adult doing the pulling). We are, collectively, very, very thrilled. We–in the form of me, Lily and Sam–tried it out, for all of a block. A great deal of core strength is required to keep us upright, so I feel this will be very good for me, although I […]

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By KJ / Monday, June 1, 2009

We leave 6/16. We come back a family of 6 7/2. I’m not panicking. Really.

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It’s a very scenic hotel

By KJ / Monday, June 22, 2009

It’s a very scenic hotel Originally uploaded by kjda If you like signs in Chinese, and dejected looking people in masks. I asked my friend Julia to put up an update, but I can’t see the site now–I should have a connector cord later today. I just belatedly realized I could blog this way. As I said, we are all fine. Feeling a little too lively. Fortunately, the hotel has all the amenities…ping pong, badmitten, holes in the walls, 3 […]

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Fwd: beijing ditan hospital.jpg

By KJ / Friday, June 26, 2009

Fwd: beijing ditan hospital.jpg Originally uploaded by kjda Pic of the quarantine hospital. (Beijing Di Tan) On the way out I noticed that they had 2 people in some of the little 8×10 cells.

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Alcohol Ocean

By KJ / Thursday, July 9, 2009

Alcohol Ocean Originally uploaded by kjda I meant to offer up this odd little bit of China yesterday, but other events intervened. It’s right next to the White Swan hotel, and I can imagine a few adoptive parents needing it. I particularly enjoyed the stunned-looking older couples wandering around with the ten-or-so- month old babies. Every one of those truly new parents needed a drink. We are home, and happy to be here, brushing out teeth with water from the […]

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By KJ / Monday, July 20, 2009

The thing I like best about the swimming pool is that they can all touch. Not that this means I am off in my plastic adirondack chair licking a Jolly Rancher icepop (the biggest vice available at the pool, sadly–where is my mojito?). But I can sit on the side, in primo splashing territory for all the horrible little splashy children in their swimsuits, shoving the ones that don’t belong to me aside and saying jeez, kid, don’t get between […]

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Apparently We Won’t Be Invited to Dinner

By KJ / Monday, August 3, 2009

I was just reading Brain, Child, and came across a little offhand comment from a mother of three: Another child would … tip us over into another category: that of the Big Family, the sort that, dispite how well-behaved the children are or how fantastic the wife’s guacamole she brings over, simply entails too big a crowd I hadn’t exactly thought of Rory as a social liability… I really do make good guacamole.

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Apparently Lily Needs Another Little Sister

By KJ / Wednesday, August 12, 2009

Apparently Lily Needs Another Little Sister Originally uploaded by kjda During Rory’s time out. Can’t cure the tantrums in one day after all! KJ Dell’Antonia sent from my iPhone

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Small world

By KJ / Sunday, August 30, 2009

Small world Originally uploaded by kjda KJ Dell’Antonia sent from my iPhone Oh–why is it a small world? I never came back to this (similarly, I owe the blogosphere a post about why I don’t regret adopting Rory, and happily that one gets easier to write every day). This is Jan–she’s our beloved babysitter Heather’s step-mother-in-law. And she knows Miss Nanette and Mr. Dana. They are the only people she knows in all of China, and they are one of […]

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Not the Worst, But Still Not There

By KJ / Thursday, September 10, 2009

An adoption bud is in China right now, three days from meeting her daughter, and she wrote a line about “that sweet little face that needs her mama to come pick her up” and my heart just broke. Rory has a sweet little face, and she could use a mama to come pick her up, too, and in all honesty I’m still not feeling it. I like her fine. She’s swell. She’s even very special, and she’s been through so […]

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By KJ / Friday, September 18, 2009

Whoa! Originally uploaded by kjda KJ Dell’Antonia sent from my iPhone

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Feeling bleh

By KJ / Sunday, October 4, 2009

We had such a great day yesterday that today couldn’t really be anything but a letdown. Let’s see…didn’t get through some work stuff, didn’t get ravioli made, didn’t make last batch of tarts, didn’t clean out closet, haven’t yet made lunches…Saturdays are WAY better than Sundays. There are a bunch of dids, but my mood is wrong to focus on those. Sam had hockey tryouts this weeked. He did make one of the travel teams, but the second tier one. […]

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Thanks, New Kid’s Store!

By KJ / Friday, October 16, 2009

Thanks, New Kid’s Store! Originally uploaded by kjda In honor of the grand opening of our semi-new kids store (and to understand the magnitude of this, you must realize that there is no kid toy or clothing stories in town), there were girl gift bags, and boy gift bags. I know it’s a little blurry, but you can see the intensity with which the purple lip gloss is being applied. To lips. To cheeks. To forehead. Every once in a […]

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On the way out

By KJ / Saturday, October 31, 2009

On the way out Originally uploaded by kjda Now that she grasps what trick or treating is, she may never come back. KJ Dell’Antonia sent from my iPhone

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Lunch, and all the Angst it Entails

By KJ / Thursday, November 12, 2009

Lily slipped into the bathroom yesterday and very nicely asked “Have you packed my lunch yet?” I’ve made your sandwich, but not the rest. Why? Can I do it? Can I do it and have FOUR THINGS? Wyatt and Sam were both down with a touch of flu, so the morning rush was both eased and compromised–so why not? One fruit, I told her, and a little of whatever else you want. I gave her two containers and she put […]

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It’s Here!

By KJ / Saturday, December 5, 2009

It’s Here! Originally uploaded by kjda Genuine snow, about 2 inches of it. Enough to sled on and toss a small snowball or two. Enough to force me to finally get out the snow pants. Enough to thrill everyone and count as Rory’s true first snow. She loved it. The funny thing is, we went to a Waldorf winter fair today. Waldorf being what it is, there is no Santa, but there IS a King of Winter, who was walking […]

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Ringleaders and Instigators

By KJ / Wednesday, January 6, 2010

I took only Rory and Lily to dinner at the home of one of their friends recently. New friends, a family I didn’t know, along with another family we were already acquainted with (the boys were home on the sick side with Rob). The new friends have two daughters, 2 and 4, and although I don’t have the impression their girls are peaceful and retired types, I’m not sure they were prepared for Rory–who took one look at their large, […]

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I did the right thing, in case you were wondering

By KJ / Friday, January 29, 2010

But I’m not going to go into details. And actually, all this reclusiveness and the MRRPHS and the Thingy and the HH wasn’t because I’m worried about my fellow parents involved in Thingy. Actually, it was all reasonably civil, and although some ugly things happened they were reasonably civil ugly things, and I will have an interesting story to tell everyone one of these days. Nah, the parents within Thingy–I mean, I’d already written a litter, so saying I’m all […]

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The American Girl Doll Store

By KJ / Thursday, February 18, 2010

The American Girl Doll Store Originally uploaded by kjda Yum…but after, there was Orange Cup Yogurt: my new absolute fave. KJ Dell’Antonia sent from my iPhone

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Rainbow Cupcake results

By KJ / Monday, March 15, 2010

Rainbow Cupcake results Originally uploaded by kjda And indeed, they made everybody very happy. Well, everybody except me. KJ Dell’Antonia sent from my iPhone

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No Time No Patience

By KJ / Thursday, April 8, 2010

Today was an easy day with nicely set apart activities, little rushing–it should have been so easy. But I decided I needed to do something on the computer during the hour in between one thing and another (order a new bike helmet) and then it took longer than I expected, and then, oh, then, Wyatt took my whatever! Rory wont let me have my turn! Lily not hellpin’ me! In other words, from all three, loud and clear: pay attention […]

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Lily Rocks the Hula Hoop (and more)

By KJ / Sunday, May 9, 2010

Lily Rocks the Hula Hoop (and more) Originally uploaded by kjda > > Lily had a friend’s festive birthday party, obviously, which she attended with enthusiasm today. It was all of 40 degrees here, but still an improvement over yesterday’s rain, which just went on and on. I am a little grumpy…we had our big annual party sort of thing here Friday night, a museum auction, and I had such a good time that it’s a little bit of a […]

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That Gon’ Make Me ANNOYING!

By KJ / Thursday, June 17, 2010

Well, yes, yes it is. In fact (and this is awful, and I know it), you were already annoying. Far more annoying than your brothers and sisters. and I’m trying to figure out why.   Rory doesn’t mean she’s annoying, of course. She means she’s annoyed (by Lily’s singing in the car, and in this case, she’s absolutely right). But ti’s something she says often, and oh, it rings so true for me. Why is Rory (4, and home for […]

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Top Baby Names of 2010 So Far: The Mystery of Seraphina

By KJ / Tuesday, July 13, 2010

We’re crazy for baby names. The marketing genius behind knows it, and she knows that any time she can release some new scoop on who’s naming who what, the parenting world will pounce. We believe names matter, and we’re right: as Sierra wrote earlier this year, girly names doom a boy to teasing and poor-sounding names decrease your odds of success. As Time magazine put it, we want to be unique, but not too unique. Or maybe we do […]

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Kate + 8 + Palin = a Camping Trip Not to Be Missed

By KJ / Monday, July 26, 2010

How is this not getting more news coverage? I know, Wikileaks has compromised the “war on terror” and oil still oozes into the gulf, with a storm bearing down on it for good measure. I know, President Obama is going on The View. But for pure newsworthy entertainment value, how did the camera crews of the world manage to miss Kate Gosselin and her 8 Goss-lings going camping with Sarah Palin? You have to figure the shoe has yet to […]

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Oprah’s Dr. Phil to Unhappy SAHM: You Made a Deal

By KJ / Wednesday, August 4, 2010

From this month’s O Magazine, perhaps the most off-base advice Dr. Phil has ever given. To a SAHM unhappy without her career, Dr. Phil says, in essence, tough. “Bloom where you’re planted” has never sounded so patronizing. A mother of two writes in, saying that she and her husband agreed, before having kids, that she would stay home until they were in full-time school. Now that the kids, aged 2 and 4, are actually here, demanding snacks and generally absorbing […]

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The 19th Amendment and the Olden Days

By KJ / Thursday, August 19, 2010

Yesterday was the 90th anniversary of the 19th Amendment. You probably know what that was, but I’ll bet that’s only because Sarah Palin made some rather clever comments about ewoks in marking that date. Come on, a week ago today, how many of you would have correctly answered an open ended question like “what is the 19th amendment to the constitution?” I’m not sure I could have done it, and I’m a former lawyer and an “A” student. I wouldn’t […]

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Kids on Bikes

By KJ / Sunday, September 12, 2010

Kids on Bikes Originally uploaded by kjda KJ Dell’Antonia sent from my iPhone —

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Star Chips and the Mommy Store

By KJ / Thursday, September 30, 2010

I don’t ask much. I swear I don’t. I want them to empty their lunch boxes after school. I want them to pack their own lunches (with help, in the case of Wyatt and Rory). I want them to put their clothes in the laundry hamper, turned right-side-out. That’s it, really, although I rounded off with table clearing, dog feeding and two area clean-ups, all assigned as a team. And bought a star chart, and tried to put them on, […]

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‘Member? ‘Member, Mommy?

By KJ / Wednesday, November 17, 2010

Rory is bothered by conversation. She’s largely a native English speaker, since she grew up understanding and speaking more English than Chinese (she was raised in a large foster home with American parental figures and Chinese nannies), but the ebb and flow of conversation still goes over her head, and she’s hampered by a natural 5-year-old inability to tell the difference between a suitable topic for conversation and a random non-sequitur. But she wants to be a part of any […]

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If I Could Parent on Track, We’d Be There By Now

By KJ / Tuesday, December 14, 2010

A friend, neighbor and fellow blogger is a big devotee of Parenting On Track, and last week I persuaded her to loan me her cds for in-car listening. She has three kind, thoughtful and independent girls (at least they look that way to me) and I know she’s followed the program to the letter. I’ve known other people who’ve gone to seminars and raved about them, and I’ve felt in need of some guidance lately. I lose my temper too […]

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By KJ / Tuesday, January 18, 2011

It was Sam, my big guy’s, turn to have a rough day. It was a teacher in-service day for Sam and Lily, and Lily fulfilled a long-overdue wish to go to school with Rory and Wyatt. I don’t think she had as much fun as she expected to, but that’s another story. Sam and I planned to go ski Killington with friends. The weather was less than super, but a morning skiing was doable (half-price day for locals, too!). But […]

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Farewell, Great Wolf Lodge

By KJ / Tuesday, February 15, 2011

Farewell, Great Wolf Lodge Originally uploaded by kjda KJ Dell’Antonia sent from my iPhone — KJ Dell’Antonia

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