I need help.
Rory has been with us now for two years and two months. And she came speaking English–about 2-year-old English. Her language is still behind in some expected ways–she struggles with “he” and “she” and verb tenses–and that’s cool. She gets speech therapy for that, and for leaving off the final consonants of all her words (speech therapy doubles as ESL in her case, since its not really her second language–they know the history and work with it). That’s all good.
But what I am worried about are NOUNS. Specifically, really common nouns that we use all the time that she just doesn’t seem to be going to pick up. She can’t remember the names of most foods, for example–all fruits are interchangeable, even the ones she likes. She can’t remember the names of things we eat often, but not weekly–like grilled cheese, say, or tacos–and I don’t mean just one or two random things, I mean LOTS of things. It’s hard for her to ask for things in her lunch or at a restaurant (it doesn’t matter at dinner, if it’s tacos, you’re eating tacos whether you can remember the name or not).
I don’t know how worried to be about this. It’s not just a couple of things, it’s a lot of things. Common things. We eat fruit every single day at least once. We pick blueberries off the bushes in the yard. I really think it’s weird that she can’t remember what they’re called from one day to the next, and I don’t know a) whether to worry; b) what, if anything I should do about it or c) whether to point it out when it happens. Should I do something to try to fix the words in her head at the moment we are using them? Ask her to repeat the name of what she wants? She tends to rely on “I want like Lily,” or “like Wyatt.” Sometimes it’s a real problem–she didn’t recognize the name of what someone else wanted at a bakery or something, or in some situation where I was going to get something, and then once she sees what Sam has, or whatever, she’s upset–and it’s too late. I try to head that off at the pass, but I don’t always get it.
Anyone else at two years, are you seeing the same patterns? Any expert thoughts? Because her language situation was so weird, it’s hard to get anyone to be definitive on what we can expect–and this time I don’t even know who to ask!
It’s not just this, either. She doesn’t remember names, even of friends she wants for playdates. And she also tends to just let speech wash over her. I can have a twenty minute long conversation with everyone else about where we are going, with her right there, putting on her shoes, and then when we get in the car, she asks where we’re going. It makes me wonder if some part of her isn’t just being lazy–not really, consciously lazy, but just figuring other people will deal with this for her. Maybe because she didn’t need to make these choices or be aware of other people early in her life?
I have no idea where this should be two years in.. Help!