Raising Devils

Caterpillar Poop

By KJ / Thursday, September 2, 2010

Caterpillar Poop Originally uploaded by kjda It’s not a new cuss phrase. It’s what we do around here in playdates. These are our caterpillars. We found them last Friday. They were all the size of that tiny one. We put them in jars, because that is what you do here in late fall; if no one in your family is not in some way involved with the life cycle of the Monarch, then you are not having a full Upper […]

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Free Range Children

By KJ / Monday, September 20, 2010

Free Range Children Originally uploaded by kjda I keep waiting for someone to come tell me to make them get off, but no one has. KJ Dell’Antonia sent from my iPhone —

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Woe Is Me

By KJ / Thursday, October 21, 2010

I am sick, sick with a sinus infection. This means I can be upright and go about my daily business, of course, without expecting or needing much additional consideration from anyone–after all, it’s only a sinus infection! And I’m on antibiotics! So really, I should be able to cook dinner, and carve pumpkins, and everything else, just right on schedule. And I have. But oh, I am miserable…my ears haven’t popped, except for an occasional brief interval driving up our […]

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Intently working

By KJ / Sunday, November 28, 2010

Intently working Originally uploaded by kjda KJ Dell’Antonia sent from my iPhone

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Thank You Santa

By KJ / Friday, December 24, 2010

Thank You Santa Originally uploaded by kjda All their own idea. Once in a while (if Sam is around) they’re just sweet. KJ Dell’Antonia sent from my iPhone —

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Fireflies, the Musical Version

By KJ / Tuesday, January 25, 2011

I seem to remember someone in some book or another making fun of the way, in musicals, suddenly everyone bursts out singing. This is not, of course, the way of the real world, particularly if you live, as I do, in a pretty deep swamp of cynicism accompanied by a healthy dose of irony. I mean, I might burst out singing, but it would be meta-singing, in which I totally understood how goofy it was to burst out singing. My […]

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Why Does It Always Have to be Snakes?

By KJ / Sunday, February 20, 2011

Why Does It Always Have to be Snakes? Originally uploaded by kjda Today’s referendum on my love took place in the bathroom. I have to go. Fine, let’s go. Will you come in with me? It’s really tiny in there. I don’t fit. Look, you can see my boots. My boots are in with you. But I want you to hold my coat. Ok. I like your hat, Mommy! Does your hat fit you? Yes, yes it does. I got […]

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The Family Meeting

By KJ / Monday, March 28, 2011

The family meeting is a big part of Parenting on Track, and as it happens, it’s a part I really love. But oh, it’s hard to schedule. The idea is to meet once a week, at a regular time, for the following: family “appreciations,” the choosing/handing out of jobs (which ought to be called contributions, but we don’t), problems (which we don’t really do yet, I’m waiting to get really regular with the meeting) and allowance. I think tonight was […]

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Happy Easter part one

By KJ / Saturday, April 23, 2011

Happy Easter part one Originally uploaded by kjda KJ Dell’Antonia

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Fresh Tortilla Fajitas

By KJ / Tuesday, May 17, 2011

Last night, in a lucky confluence of events, I unloaded my pasta machine from the basket I’d taken to Wyatt’s classroom (biannual pasta-making demonstration) at the same moment as I began contemplating mixing up tortilla dough—and a brilliant idea was born. Any good Texan knows that the only real tortillas are handmade tortillas, and that putting “handmade” on a baggie and then selling them in the grocery fridge section really does not count. I’ll eat those, but only under duress. […]

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Rice Krispies Treats Before and After

By KJ / Saturday, June 4, 2011

Rice Krispies Before It was a forty minute drive to today’s party, a farewell to one of Sam’s hockey teammates whose family is moving to Wisconsin. The Big Question: How many Rice Krispie Treats (did I say Rice Krispie Treats? I meant, light, crunchy, sweet, salty, buttery, perfect Rice Krispie Treats) would make it? Rice Krispies After The worst part of this is that there was only one person in the car: Me.

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The Success of the First Semi-Official Day of Summer Depends on Your Perspective

By KJ / Saturday, June 18, 2011

It’s not official (this according to Sam) because “we never have school on Saturdays.” We: Planned a summer vacation. Cleaned the playroom. Built a giant fort in the clean playroom. Made a headband from the official American Girl Doll “have-your-mommy-make-you-a-headband” kit. Had a thunderstorm. Put out a sprinkler and our sad excuse for a wading pool (the former Little Tykes frog-shaped sandbox. I’m getting complaints). And wrapped up with a styling session: Was it an awesome day? I’d say so. […]

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Can I Sit By You?

By KJ / Tuesday, July 12, 2011

Can I Sit By You? Originally uploaded by kjda KJ Dell’Antonia sent from my iPhone — It happens at every meal we eat out. We enter. All is calm. Approach the table with a small, preliminary flurry of activity. There is, perhaps, a little jockeying for position and then: “Can I sit by you?” If nothing else, this post should convince you that no child in his or her right mind should WANT to sit by me. Because I don’t […]

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Wear Your Picture Clothes Please!

By KJ / Wednesday, August 3, 2011

Wear Your Picture Clothes Please! Originally uploaded by kjda This morning I hauled everyone out, dressed us up (me and Rob too) in blue and white and played photographer. I assaulted people on the beach and asked them to take our picture. I delayed breakfast. I made people wait to walk in front in front of us. I did it all. They’ll thank me later, I swear. KJ Dell’Antonia sent from my iPhone —

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Moshi Moshi Moshi!

By KJ / Sunday, August 28, 2011

First thing this morning, the visitors started. “Can I play Moshi Monsters?” “Can I?” “Can I?” “And me too!” Weekend mornings are for wallowing in technology and television. Weekend mornings when every available activity has been cancelled by hurricane, even more so. (We sustained no greater damage here than that done by Rob and me when we decided to move the couch; it was a good day to live on the side of a mountain.) Anything the kids can do […]

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Well, We Totally Look Alike In Our Bike Helmets

By KJ / Friday, September 16, 2011

This past weekend, we rode in the always fantastic local “Tour de Taste) (pictured a few posts down). 6 miles, 6 stops for food. Who couldn’t appreciate a ride like that? One stop had some very tasty grilled cheese sandwiches and an amazing tabboleh salad (and that is so not something I would usually eat, seeing as how it had neither bacon nor chocolate in it, and I can’t even spell it). They were also promoting their own farm products […]

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That Perverse Pride We Take In Our Weird Families

By KJ / Sunday, October 9, 2011

This could end really well. Or—let’s be honest here—it could go really badly. Lily requested cheeseburgers for dinner tonight on this, a fantastic day for grilling, and cheeseburgers she shall have. And, she said, those french fries you make, by which she means the Yukon Golds in cold peanut oil from Cook’s Illustrated. But I stopped by the farmstand on the way home for the potatoes, and they are unquestionably not Yukon Gold, but some type of russet. And when […]

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Out of Words

By KJ / Friday, November 4, 2011

I may be out of words for the day. On the fantastic news front, I will be taking the Motherlode blog again next week at the New York Times. I have some great stuff planned, and I’m going to link here every time, which I think I failed to do last time around. This will be the outtakes. The snark. The post behind the post. Or just the links. But it was a day of mucho wordiness. I started it […]

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GoodReads Best Books of the Year Awards

By KJ / Wednesday, November 30, 2011

2011 Goodreads Choice Awards Vote now for your favorite books! Let’s see, I voted for Cinderella Ate My Daughter, Sideways on a Scooter, and The Wilder Life. I was sadly unable to vote in the fiction category, because, well, it’s been a low fiction reading year (although I’m loving the short stories in If I Loved You, I Would Tell You This, and have Stephen King’s new book on my bed table in all of its rather large and daunting […]

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Delicious Nutritious Chocolate Cereal Pretzel Mix Part 4

By KJ / Monday, February 6, 2012

Delicious Nutritious Chocolate Cereal Pretzel Mix Part 4 Originally uploaded by kjda And, finally, the nutritious part. You must understand that one reason this is nutritious, and healthful, and a serious gift to myself, is simply that every night, right around this time, my stress wires fully fired, kids plowed into bed, evening of email ahead, determined to get a little down time, I sit down on the couch and plow whatever salty thing I can find it the cabinet […]

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“Happier at Home:” Gretchen’s Project, KJ’s Clutter

By KJ / Sunday, September 9, 2012

Getting “happier” about my possessions means more than just clearing clutter—but I’m going to have to clear the clutter first.

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Poopy-Bottomed Demon Child

By KJ / Monday, February 7, 2005

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On the Radio

By KJ / Monday, March 14, 2005

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Chronicles of the Sleepless and Damned

By KJ / Friday, April 8, 2005

I just hit Lily’s crib so hard that I think I broke my hand. Really helped. too. I imagine she feels really secure in there right now. I also screamed back at her in rage, hit myself repeatedly in the head with my hand and shook said crib, hard. All in an attempt to get her to just GO TO SLEEP AND STAY ASLEEP DAMNIT. No one heard me and came to my rescue. Probably more significantly, no one came […]

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Dr Bradigan, DDS, Gun Runner

By KJ / Wednesday, May 4, 2005

Today was Sam’s second dentist appointment. He’s been looking forward to it all week, for reasons he never really articulated. Generally, I think he likes being the center of attention, no matter what form. Once we were there, he sank into himself, a little, huddled just a bit in the chair. I could tell he was nervous, but I stayed in my chair, across the room, smiling, relaxed, and he relaxed too. He eyed each instrument as she presented it, […]

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Three Shots (and

By KJ / Thursday, June 30, 2005

It was Sam’s annual check-up today, an event he’s been preparing for by reading Blue’s Check-up and conducting mock doctor’s appointments for months. He enjoyed himself vastly as they checked his vision and his hearing , weighed him, measured him and produced, as promised, an otoscope and a stethoscope. He was most pleased, and reasonably charming. Until the medical student and doctor exited, and the nurses arrived. They tried to be nice. One, a gregarious, gigantic guy named Kevin, was […]

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Big News and Excuses (and Too Much Information for Dad)

By KJ / Tuesday, October 4, 2005

We’ll be adding a third devil to the pack in March. I couldn’t blog about it until I told my mom, now, could I? And I couldn’t tell my mom without some good concrete info about a due date, and I couldn’t get good concrete info about a due date without an ultrasound, and I couldn’t get an ultrasound until they managed to squeeze me into their insanely busy schedule. Why no pre-existing info about a due date? Because my […]

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Chug Chug Chugging along

By KJ / Thursday, December 8, 2005

I’m on target to finish the draft. I am really going to do it this time. It’s really, really going to happen. Not just if I tell you ten times it might be true, but really. Oh, and there’s the little matter of a professional, paying assignment to get done this week and next, too, but I feel good. I can do it. I can pull this off. Work is heating up for R., which makes my duties on the […]

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By KJ / Monday, January 30, 2006

I was at a party over the weekend, an actual, honest to god, here’s a loud band and some food and some drink party (dancing to 60’s and 70’s standards under the stuffed heads of decapitated animals, an unexpected party from the pov of me in my twenties but a fun one just the same). The band took a break, and my friend L sidled up to me and hissed “hey, let’s slip outside for a cigarette.” For jsut a […]

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How Are You Feeling?

By KJ / Saturday, March 11, 2006

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Fairy Tales

By KJ / Saturday, May 13, 2006

Fairy tales just aren’t PC, friends. They’re violent. Kings kill princes, fathers fling their daughters out in the snow, the wolf chows down on Grandma. They’re horribly insensitive to gener issues. Girls want to marry the prince, and even if they manage to do something clever or save themselves, marriage is their portion. Fathers promise their daughter’s hands without consulting her, beauty and charm are all important, etc. They’re heavily dependant on social class. Servants live belowstairs, masters above. Paupers […]

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By KJ / Monday, October 9, 2006

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A Little Test. Oh, and the Fish Dies Again.

By KJ / Monday, February 26, 2007

Reddy #2 died. Full disclosure to Lily, who flushed him herself and agreed to adopt Sam’s dramatic looking swordtail, which he agreed to if he was allowed to help name it. So, Lightening, who’s been alive in the tank for nearly a week now, becomes Lily’s special fish. He’ll probably be belly-up tomorrow. So bedtime rolled around with excruciating slowness after a very long day. Lily’s been making bedtime a thing of misery and threats for weeks now, and tonight […]

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Sam is on the job.

By KJ / Thursday, August 23, 2007

Sam is on the job. Originally uploaded by kjda. KJ

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The top of Holt’s Ledge

By KJ / Sunday, October 14, 2007

The top of Holt’s Ledge Originally uploaded by kjda. KJ

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By KJ / Friday, November 30, 2007

Haircuts! Originally uploaded by kjda. KJ

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Breakfast at lou’s

By KJ / Wednesday, February 27, 2008

Breakfast at lou’s Originally uploaded by kjda. This was our reward for a morning of shoveling snow. School was delayed…but they were late anyway!

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An easter tragedy

By KJ / Sunday, March 23, 2008

An easter tragedy Originally uploaded by kjda. KJ Dell’Antonia (Please attribute any drastic spelling and punctuation errors to my poor thumb-typing and creative autocorrect.)

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A very confused caterpillar

By KJ / Friday, April 18, 2008

A very confused caterpillar Originally uploaded by kjda. KJ Dell’Antonia (Please attribute any drastic spelling and punctuation errors to my poor thumb-typing and creative autocorrect.)

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50 miles!

By KJ / Sunday, July 13, 2008

50 miles! Originally uploaded by kjda. KJ Dell’Antonia (Please attribute any drastic spelling and punctuation errors to my poor thumb-typing and creative autocorrect.)

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New bed!

By KJ / Friday, September 26, 2008

New bed! Originally uploaded by kjda. KJ Dell’Antonia (Please attribute any drastic spelling and punctuation errors to my poor thumb-typing and creative autocorrect.)

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Good Morning New Hampshire

By KJ / Tuesday, November 25, 2008

Good Morning New Hampshire Originally uploaded by kjda. Downtown… KJ Dell’Antonia

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What we really did today…

By KJ / Friday, February 20, 2009

What we really did today… Originally uploaded by kjda. KJ Dell’Antonia

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Adventures in Adoptoblogland

By KJ / Thursday, April 9, 2009

I got an impulsive email from Guoji Familia this morning–she, Cupcake, Spark and her #2 son were heading our way! We met up at the Montshire, and hung for the morning. It was great to meet up “IRL”, but I’m finding the whole thing inspires me to talk in what I think of as “blogher” talk…lots of exclamation points and references to the ‘net. We had a good time, and bonded over plenty–adoption, of course, kids the same ages, yadda. […]

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Wanna Know What I Think about Swine Flu?

By KJ / Wednesday, April 29, 2009

You’ll have to head over to Word of Mouth at NHPR.org to hear me still being funny about it! Today I’m feeling less clever, since rumors are spreading that China will close down adoption activity until things sort themselves out one way or another. Rory’s in good hands, though, and if things get worse–well, they get worse. And if they don’t, I’m confident it will pick back up quickly. I’m sticking to my vague June travel plans until forced to […]

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Best. Shoes. Ever.

By KJ / Monday, May 25, 2009

Best. Shoes. Ever. Originally uploaded by kjda Dear Donald Pliner Thank you so much for the lovely comfy shoes. I walked. I danced. I did the horah carrying Wyatt. I picked up Lily and danced some more. And not one time all evening did my feet hurt at all. You rock, Donald Pliner. KJ Dell’Antonia sent from my iPhone

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Mob Scene in the Forbidden City

By KJ / Thursday, June 18, 2009

Here’s a phrase you may want to learn if you’re going to bring a lot of small, blonde children to China: Ta-men pu yao. That’s “They don’t want it.” Ta pu yao is “He doesn’t want it.” The smog today was palpable, settling down in the Forbidden City to the point where you felt like you needed to clean your glasses, even though you weren’t wearing any. It was muggy, cloudy and oppressive. While we walked to the Forbidden City […]

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Lessons Not Learned

By KJ / Wednesday, June 24, 2009

I was hoping we might all learn a little gratitude for much we have and a little understanding of how little we need from this, but my five-year-old is having a tantrum because there is no ice for her coffee.

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So. Tired.

By KJ / Tuesday, June 30, 2009

The real trouble with the whole quarantine thing is that it sucked a lot of the adventure right out of us. We’re tired. We’ve eaten a lot of things we might not otherwise have eaten. We’ve hung out together. We’ve talked to people. We’ve been stared at. And now we are ready to resume our normally scheduled programming, but we still have a week of travel to go. Rory is adjusting well. She kind of collapsed today and took an […]

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How Lucky We Are

By KJ / Tuesday, July 14, 2009

How Lucky We Are Originally uploaded by kjda Four kids, so far, is surprisingly not orders of magnitude more difficult than three. (of course, we cheated by not adding a baby). Things I expect to be difficult–like taking two three year olds who are asleep in the car to the grocery store, or taking them all to the pool–so far have underceded my expectations. (Is that a word? It should be.) If the difficult days are yet to come–the teenage […]

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