Raising Devils

By KJ / Friday, August 20, 2010

You know your grocery store is indulging in multiple tricks, nudges and persuasion to get you to spend more. We’re all educated consumers, and we’re much harder to fool with that whole Oreos on the end-of-the-aisle display, store brands in the middle thing than we once were. But some of the manipulation plays out beneath the radar: who knew the pattern on the carpet was set up to lead you deeper into the store? Women’s Day magazine has an article […]

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Kids on Bikes

By KJ / Sunday, September 12, 2010

Kids on Bikes Originally uploaded by kjda KJ Dell’Antonia sent from my iPhone —

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Hockey. Damn It.

By KJ / Friday, October 1, 2010

It’s been a tough night around here. Hockey tryouts are over, and Sam skated his best. His dad, who watched, expected him to make one of the two middle of the four teams (that would be white or blue). He rode home in the car anticipating looking at the roster–would it be up? Who would be on his team? He was so excited. You can tell this is going to end badly, can’t you? It does. He made the red […]

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Proof Positive We Live in Paradise

By KJ / Saturday, November 20, 2010

Proof Positive We Live in Paradise Originally uploaded by kjda KJ Dell’Antonia sent from my iPhone — KJ Dell’Antonia www.kjdellantonia.com 917-647-6600 Contributing Editor, Kiwi Magazine Read me on Slate’s XXFactor blog www.slate.com/blogs/blogs/xxfactor Twitter.com/kjda

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Be My, Be My Baby

By KJ / Friday, December 17, 2010

Last week, inspired by lots of things–one parenting guru (Vicki Hoefle, of Parenting on Track, whose cult I am totally joining), one excellent book that purports to be about parenting the ADHD child, but is really about examining your parenting style in the middle of your kid’s childhood and figuring out who you really want to be as your grade schooler turns into a teen (that would be Katherine Ellison’s Buzz: A Year of Paying Attention), my feeling of relative […]

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What I Do Better Now

By KJ / Friday, January 21, 2011

Am I getting older? Wiser? More experienced? Well, yes to the first, certainly. And I’ve been working hard at making myself more the person I’d like to be in the past few years. It’s funny, but it started when I wrote this article (from Parenting) about my efforts not to be late all the time. I honestly didn’t like being late, but I wasn’t sure I could change. But writing about it made me take the effort seriously. And I […]

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Independent Packing

By KJ / Tuesday, February 15, 2011

What does it say about me that up until now, for every trip, I have made myself insane completing every last detail of every bit of the packing? As in, I charge their Nintendos. I pack their carry-ons. I make sure each kid has just the right workbook or crayons, or every member of the mini SuperWhy team. I put carefully distributed snacks in them. I pack their clothes, matched, clean, suitable. Etc. I micro-manage the whole process, and it […]

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2 Minutes of Wild Hockey Action

By KJ / Tuesday, March 22, 2011

Rory is #10, black helmet, black ponytail. Wyatt is white helmet, #19 (both in yellow tied-on pinneys). The video was created by the proud dad of #14 in red. They played hockey for 2 straight hours Sunday in a wild end-of-season “jamboree.” And now they are mad that it’s over.

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By KJ / Thursday, April 21, 2011

Yes, even though it has been a long day home with all of you and we have made paper mâché and so on and endless so forth, I will read Ramona the Pest to you. Spring “break.”

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And You Let Them Drink Coke?

By KJ / Wednesday, May 11, 2011

This has never happened to me before, and I’m so happy that it waited until I was ready. Last night, Guo Ji Mama and I were at her son’s lacrosse game on our local fields. We ate a picnic from the Mexican place, left most of our respective broods happily playing in the park and sauntered over to sort of semi-watch the game. After a while, a largish blonde woman approached. “Are zose your kids alone in ze playground?” she […]

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Iced Coffee: The Life-Giving Specialty of the House

By KJ / Saturday, May 28, 2011

I love iced coffee. I am so not a coffee person otherwise, in that I really can’t distinguish good coffee from bad (although a really great cup might catch my attention), don’t care how it’s brewed, won’t notice if you stew it for a while and really, really can’t tell where you got your beans or how and when they were ground. When it comes to hot coffee, I’m a philistine, and I drink it with plenty of milk and […]

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Everything in a Name

By KJ / Friday, June 17, 2011

What’s in a name? Everything. Every thought your parents had about who you might be. A goodly dose of who your father’s family was, and possibly, depending on your circumstances, your mother’s as well. If you’re adopted, what’s in a name? Maybe everything, maybe nothing. Casually (as in the non-legal name you’d give, say, a gymnastics class), Rory’s name says nothing much about her except that she’s the child of two people who liked the name Rory. Her name is […]

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There’s Something Familiar About This Place

By KJ / Wednesday, July 6, 2011

Another post from France… We’ve done the drive from Barcelona to Cazo before. As we headed into Narbonne, Rob reminded me that we’d missed the turn in some way last time. “That’s how we ended up at the Carrefours, remember?” I did, and although we’d liked the Carrefours, with all four kids asleep in the back of the car in the middle of the day and Rob and I each running on about an hour’s poor sleep on the plane, […]

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Immediate Gratification

By KJ / Tuesday, July 26, 2011

Immediate Gratification Originally uploaded by kjda Sam has been saving. And this weekend, he found that he had enough for the lowest end iTouch, the 8G. Of course we have, as a family, a reasonably large quantity of iThisandThats. With EXTREMELY limited access, Partly because I don’t want them wired up during the week, and partly because of the competition allowing one to play the iPad entails. Everyone has accepted that the iFamily is for travel only. But if he […]

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Will Wishing Make it So?

By KJ / Wednesday, August 24, 2011

I really don’t want Rory to have a language issue. I go back and forth on whether I think the things I posted about yesterday–her srtuggles with nouns, her mixing up words within categories–mean anything more than, as Gina said yesterday, that she’s “just a girl trying to learn SO Much. Yes, she wasn’t only learning language but learning social cues, learning how to be in a family, learning so much more than kids brought up here at an earlier […]

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Get Up! Get Up!

By KJ / Saturday, September 10, 2011

It really bothers my children to see me sit on the sofa. This may be because for many years, I did not have any opportunity to sit down. I kept us so busy that we were rarely home, in part because I was a little afraid to be alone with all of these kids, who might want me to play Candyland. I hate Candyland. And then when we were home, it was all very active. We were baking! We were […]

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Always the Mom Who’s Behind

By KJ / Tuesday, September 27, 2011

Tonight was “open school night” or “back to school” night or something like that at Sam and Lily’s school. No kids, just parents in the classroom. Don’t tell Lily, but because we’ve been second grade parents before, we defaulted more towards Sam’s class, although Rob went to her teacher’s main presentation, and I rolled in for the tail end and to ask a key question. In Sam’s class, though, I focused. I listened to the lovely, lovely teacher. I copied […]

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By KJ / Tuesday, October 25, 2011

Dinner Originally uploaded by kjda Let it never be said that Rory’s KFC meal did not include vegetables.

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Surprise! The Kitten Would be a SURPRISE!

By KJ / Wednesday, November 23, 2011

I always forget I know some of you IRL. So–it’s a Christmas surprise. More anon.

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Helping the Dentist Out

By KJ / Wednesday, January 18, 2012

Helping the Dentist Out Originally uploaded by kjda KJ Dell’Antonia sent from my iPhone —

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The Perils of Hangman With 7-Year-Olds

By KJ / Sunday, April 29, 2012

The Perils of Hangman With 7-Year-Olds Originally uploaded by kjda

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All in My Head

By KJ / Wednesday, March 16, 2005

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Nothing like a Skull & Crossbones Crib Bumper

By KJ / Thursday, March 31, 2005

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Just a Few More Steps, and

By KJ / Wednesday, April 27, 2005

I have seen the new food pyramid, and the news is good–apparently, if you run up just a few steps a day, you can eat anything you want at the top of the pyramid! At least, that’s what I heard someone on NPR say. She seemed worried that all of us graphic sign-people would take xanax buy pharmacy phentermine On the 20 March 2008 xanax buy pharmacy phentermine flight was the first time voice calls have been allowed in-flight on […]

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Happy Birthday to Lily

By KJ / Friday, June 10, 2005

Lily’s one today, glorious one. She walked her first step on Memorial day, four steps two days later–and hasn’t repeated it since. She’s the Queen Mum of waving, standing at the train table, greeting me with a frantic wave when I come to release her from her car seat. She likes putting things in things, then taking them out, then putting them back in again (I could go on…). She likes bags to carry and hats to put on her […]

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Lily is not sure this is a good idea.

By KJ / Wednesday, August 24, 2005

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In which I clear up the Mork from Ork reference

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The House that Got Away

By KJ / Friday, March 3, 2006

Oh, well. Someone willing to pay more for it than we were bought the house we wanted. I’m dejected and disappointed, but we bid the right amount…you know, it probably feels worse to overpay than to not get the house. I’m partly just disappointed because I was revved up for it to HAPPEN. And I hate it when I want something and don’t get it. I’m not good at that at all. I know, a better house will come rolling […]

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By KJ / Thursday, April 20, 2006

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The Great Snack Project

By KJ / Thursday, June 15, 2006

Yesterday at the grocery store I completely lost my head. This was partly thanks to the entertaining musings of Caitlin Flanigan in To Hell With All That, which we read for book club. Flanigan is always fun to read. For one thing, she’s a person who can see the guilty side of anything. I closed the book, thought the hell with that, I am the mother I am, and went and bought $300 worth of chicken nuggets. OK, an exageration. […]

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You Know

By KJ / Thursday, February 15, 2007

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Not the People I Think We Are

By KJ / Tuesday, May 1, 2007

I think I remain stubbornly convinced that we are, somehow, or will be, somehow, living the sort of life that is found primarily in the pages of, say, a J. Crew catalog. That handsome dogs will romp up to us as we pull sculls up on the banks of ponds, dressed with what Fitzgerald might have called enviable casualness. It is this illusion that leads me to participate in things like “tball on the green”. We do live in a […]

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Dear Willliams Sonoma. Send the Spatula, not the Guilt

By KJ / Wednesday, October 3, 2007

Dear Williams-Sonoma: I just received my order of assorted miscellaneous Halloween baking items and plastic bowls, and the minute I opened the first box, I was disappointed. Disappointed, annoyed and even pissed off. When I opened the second box, I felt even worse. Not because of the items I ordered, which are pretty much exactly the completely unnecessary but fun to have items I expected, but because you didn’t just send me a few pumpkin candies and a ghost-shaped spatula: […]

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2 dogs and a pilot

By KJ / Wednesday, October 31, 2007

2 dogs and a pilot Originally uploaded by kjda. KJ

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Lily is the baby and Wyatt is the mom!

By KJ / Monday, February 11, 2008

Lily is the baby and Wyatt is the mom! Originally uploaded by kjda. KJ Dell’Antonia (Please attribute any drastic spelling and punctuation errors to my poor thumb-typing and creative autocorrect.)

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A Late Winter Walk

By KJ / Wednesday, March 12, 2008

A Late Winter Walk Originally uploaded by kjda. KJ Dell’Antonia (Please attribute any drastic spelling and punctuation errors to my poor thumb-typing and creative autocorrect.)

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She went all the way across

By KJ / Tuesday, April 15, 2008

She went all the way across Originally uploaded by kjda. KJ Dell’Antonia (Please attribute any drastic spelling and punctuation errors to my poor thumb-typing and creative autocorrect.)

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Meet krypto the superdog.

By KJ / Thursday, June 19, 2008

Meet krypto the superdog. Originally uploaded by kjda. KJ Dell’Antonia (Please attribute any drastic spelling and punctuation errors to my poor thumb-typing and creative autocorrect.)

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An audience

By KJ / Tuesday, August 26, 2008

An audience Originally uploaded by kjda. At the dentist! KJ Dell’Antonia (Please attribute any drastic spelling and punctuation errors to my poor thumb-typing and creative autocorrect.)

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Because we are all about healthy lunches here.

By KJ / Friday, October 24, 2008

Because we are all about healthy lunches here. Originally uploaded by kjda. KJ Dell’Antonia

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This sick day may be too much fun…

By KJ / Thursday, January 15, 2009

This sick day may be too much fun… Originally uploaded by kjda. KJ Dell’Antonia

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The MacBook Air Arrives: In Real Time!

By KJ / Sunday, April 5, 2009

It’s really late. I should not open my new MacBook Air. I have opened the outer ox. Now I am taking out the inner handled box. It is small, but rather heavy. There better be something else in here, like a book. Which seems unlikely. Am I having remorse already? There is a book. A smallish one, but it accounts for some of the weight. And two mysterious power cords. Perhaps I should read the book. But this is a […]

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Mini golf course maintenance

By KJ / Tuesday, April 21, 2009

Mini golf course maintenance, originally uploaded by kjda. KJ Dell’Antonia sent from my iPhone

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Look out! I’ve got a hoe!

By KJ / Sunday, May 17, 2009

Actually, I’ve got two. And yes, I find it hard to use the word “hoe” with a straight face…. Today at the garden store, purchasing what I think has turned out to be far too much compost, I also invested in a pair of hoes–a little one, for any of my small garden assistants, and one for me. We have three biggish beds that are pretty solid weeds at the moment, and are destined for pumpkins, squash and corn, and […]

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Paper Dolls in Action

By KJ / Friday, June 12, 2009

RIght now Rory, Lily, Wyatt and Sam are jumping off the Great Wall on their way to tennis lessons. Or something. It’s a little unclear… No, Rory didn’t make a surprise appearance. She’s represented by a cardboard paper doll wearing magnetic clothing and played by Lily’s friend Kate. We’ve gone through a lot of ramifications with China travel lately. Wyatt took a bad fall off a swing and came up sobbing “I don’t want to go to China, I want […]

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Fwd: Lunch at hospital

By KJ / Tuesday, June 23, 2009

Fwd: Lunch at hospital Originally uploaded by kjda

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A Quarantine Gallery

By KJ / Saturday, June 27, 2009

We did, indeed, get out of quarantine today. Fancy certificates, flowers and everything. TIme has nearly healed the wounds already (that and a couple of really, really good meals). Looking these over, it’s clear that once we were out of the hospital and that first awful couple of rooms, China did well by us. Considering. And the people we talked to in Q seemed to feel that the government was “doing the responsible thing” and that cooperating was a civic […]

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The Power of a (semi) Good night’s Sleep

By KJ / Saturday, July 11, 2009

Was Friday a low? I don’t know. We’ll have to get a lot further along in life to see where the lows are…But Friday was not a good day. Today, on the other hand, was and is. Everyone got a mostly good night’s sleep, although not necessarily in their own beds. We rode the 20 mile route in the Prouty (the shortest, and not what we’d planned to do, but we haven’t been on our bikes in a month!) Rory […]

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