Raising Devils

Wyatt, Baby Extraordinaire, Arrives

By KJ / Monday, March 20, 2006

So, not a false alarm after all! I will post a picture, I will share the whole story, just as soon as I catch up on my sleep (right–that will be sometime in 2008, so maybe just a little sooner!) But suffice it to say, labor indeed. But no faster, unfortunately, than with numbers one or two. It seems like my body pretty much has all kids the same way–no shooting them out like watermelon seeds for me! (Some woman, […]

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Raising Lily, Reading

By KJ / Tuesday, May 16, 2006

It’s a Girl edited by Andi Buchanan. I’ve just read most of the essays in this book, and I’ve loved them. Why “most”? Because I couldn’t read the last few–the ones about letting go. My oldest child isn’t quite five, and even thought there are plenty of moments when letting him go–ANYWHERE–sounds pretty good, the truth is that I can’t even think about them grown up and even a little bit gone. I’ll trust I’ll handle that somehow when it […]

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I thought I had a minute

By KJ / Thursday, October 26, 2006

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Deep Breaths, I Have Taken a Few

By KJ / Saturday, March 3, 2007

I’m pretty much through yesterday’s bad funk. I’ve infected poor Rob with it, though, and I don’t think he likes me very much right now. Not that I like me much lately, either. But we’ve always soldiered through that before, no reason not to think we will again. I’m struggling with my novel rewrite, too. When it goes well, I’m on top of the world. When it doens’t–I just opened the file and realized the character I’ve just brought in […]

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Lily’s eating habits

By KJ / Saturday, September 15, 2007

Lily’s eating habits Originally uploaded by kjda. We’ve spent a lot of time defending the way we feed the kids–which is to pretty much offer whatever’s available at any meal all at once without commenting on what gets eaten. We do encourage trying new things and talk about food groupd and balance, but we never, ever make eating dessert conditional on eating anything else. If there’s dessert, you get it, no matter what. This worked great with Sam but seemed […]

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Drawing outside on a beautiful fall day

By KJ / Monday, October 22, 2007

Drawing outside on a beautiful fall day Originally uploaded by kjda. KJ

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On the T

By KJ / Friday, December 14, 2007

On the T Originally uploaded by kjda. KJ Dell’Antonia (Please attribute any drastic spelling and punctuation errors to my poor thumb-typing and creative autocorrect.)

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Bring on Vogue

By KJ / Saturday, March 1, 2008

This is what I’ve done today: 5:00 Get up to let dog out 5:05 Get Wyatt. 5-7: Sort of sleep, sort of not, while everyone mills in and out of bed. Aquire impressive collection of stuffed animals. 7-7:30 With Rob, get self and kids ready to go out the door. Pack for Sam’s sleepover. 7:50: Drive to town to deliver Sam to fll day Boston trip plus sleepover. (I miss him!) 8:15: Breakfast at Lou’s. Take Lily to bathroom. Let […]

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Thirty Minutes a Day, Take One

By KJ / Wednesday, March 26, 2008

So, when I vow to make a change, I do not set what anyone would call manageable goals. I tend to go big, which means that now that the deficiencies in Sam’s education have been drawn more emphatically to my attention (Thanks Mom!) and with the possiblility (probablility) of his heading to Crossroads (local independent school) in the near future, where they have standards and expect the kids to know actual things (like what mummies are and how the circulatory […]

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Lily’s Spring Concert rehearsal

By KJ / Wednesday, June 4, 2008

Lily’s Spring Concert rehearsal Originally uploaded by kjda. KJ Dell’Antonia (Please attribute any drastic spelling and punctuation errors to my poor thumb-typing and creative autocorrect.)

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Lily’s Turn to Learn that it Really Happens

By KJ / Tuesday, July 22, 2008

Lily’s day has come, and she’s taking it better than I would have expected. Here’s the background: Once upon a time, when Sam wasbut a wee lad of three and in nursery school, he failed to put his boots and coat on, or to sit in his cubby and put his boots and coat on, or some dreadful transgression of that nature. Sam, I declared sternly, if you don’t go do whatever it is I want you to do right […]

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Sam the Reader

By KJ / Thursday, October 16, 2008

Sam the Reader Originally uploaded by kjda. Hi mom! I am sitting at the library with Sam. He finished his homework in no time and has been reading for 35 minutes. Of course, the minute I wrote that he started humming. Still, pretty good for somebody who wouldn’t have read at all a month ago. He is out with me because tonight is the Nordic team ski sale, and he needs new skis. Since we have Holly tonight, he gets […]

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When you run out of strawberries…

By KJ / Saturday, December 20, 2008

When you run out of strawberries… Originally uploaded by kjda. KJ Dell’Antonia

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You Wan, Soon to Join the Family

By KJ / Monday, March 30, 2009

You Wan Originally uploaded by kjda KJ Dell’Antonia sent from my iPhone Here she is! Some know, and plenty don’t, that we’ve been working on adopting a little girl from China since February of 2008. (Details? look here). If there are extreme adventures in parenting, this has to be one of them. Because this is Number four, right here. Don’t be fooled by appearances–she’s three years old. This is an old picture, and we’re waiting, now, for an “update”–which could […]

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Mushy Happiness in General

By KJ / Tuesday, April 14, 2009

A few days ago I found Rob noodling around on the Internet (what did we do with ourselves ten years ago?) looking at, of all things, artificial ice. We’d been talking, looking at pictures of Rebecca, telling the usual end-of-the-day stories…him talking about how funny Wyatt was during tooth brushing, me describing the day’s drop off and pick up adventures. And now he was looking at…ice. As in, synthetic hockey rinks. Really. Who knew? There were pictures–a big ole suburban […]

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Sometimes there’s nothing to control

By KJ / Wednesday, May 6, 2009

It looks like things are still moving in China-adoption land, flu or no flu. And so it looks like we will likely be trotting along on our planned schedule. One advantage to not being able to do something at the first possible minute is that it’s more likely to fall in with your schedule. Not that it has, yet, and aliens could always invade at the last minute, causing the whole thing to go up in smoke in an Independence […]

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Misty’s Big Idea

By KJ / Wednesday, May 27, 2009

Misty’s Big Idea Originally uploaded by kjda Crappola of a day here in pretty much every way. Misty actually suggested Chardonnay, but that would have involved a trip to the fridge in the basement, and I barely had enough energy to crack this puppy open. KJ Dell’Antonia sent from my iPhone

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Quarantine Fun, Day One, and a Panic

By KJ / Saturday, June 20, 2009

Duplicates, I know–I had some trouble uploading. Ok, if all those swabs come back negative, I’ll be the best quarantine mother ever. I will make paper dolls, I will build card houses, I will teach sam to play chess. I will be 100% present, I swear. We will know in an hour. If anyone is positive, it’s more quarantine for everyone, and the hospital for the positive person. The embassy has said they will intervene to make sure an adult […]

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By KJ / Thursday, June 25, 2009

Yum? Originally uploaded by kjda Every single one of us at least TRIED this. Wyatt and Lily had several bites each. I can’t say anyone really liked it, but we tried it. The sign said it was a bean, but I have serious doubts. KJ Dell’Antonia sent from my iPhone

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Shamian Island: The Home Stretch

By KJ / Saturday, July 4, 2009

Shamian Island is best described as the place the British took over, back when tea and opium were in constant traffic across the sea, and although I am sure there was razing and looting involved in its creation, the result is extraordinarily pleasant. Shady verandas. Palm trees. Wide park-like walkways. Few cars. We are staying at the White Swan. It used to be right next to the consulate, so everyone stayed here. Now it’s right next to an entire cottage […]

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Being a Good Sport

By KJ / Thursday, July 16, 2009

Being a Good Sport Originally uploaded by kjda I squeezed her cone trying to peel the wrapper off, but she can take it. KJ Dell’Antonia sent from my iPhone

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Community, oh, Community

By KJ / Wednesday, July 29, 2009

Everyone needs buds. MIne come in, um, human and online form. Physical and online? Ok, that sounds better. I couldn’t parent without mine, and I couldn’t write without my crew of fellow writers, too–a couple of whom, today, totally offhand, provided me with complete inspiration when I really needed it. Writers (like parents) tend to work alone. I’m lucky enough to have a couple of editors I’m in regular contact with, and a couple of steady gigs that mean I […]

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And We Thought Our Trip to China was Bad

By KJ / Sunday, August 9, 2009

Imagine if we’d had to leave without Rory. It just happened, to this family. Here, in a nutshell, is the United States’ new plan for China adoptions: 1. Complete masses of paperwork. Travel to China. Adopt and become responsible for child. 2. Have child tested for TB. 3. If child tests positive for TB, stay in China for 2-6 months, as child will not be allowed to travel to the US, but is no longer the responsibility of anyone in […]

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Wild Emotional Fluctuations (on my part)

By KJ / Sunday, August 23, 2009

After we went to Cape Cod, I had this whole post in my head about how, when you were young, you always imagined you’d go on vacation and come back changed, and now I had–I’d come back fully accepting and loving Rory and happy with our family. And then the last day had its ups and downs, and I lost the feeling, and since then, it’s gone wildly back and forth. It’s scheduling time, and change time, and as much […]

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In Exchange for a Smile Picture

By KJ / Wednesday, September 9, 2009

In Exchange for a Smile Picture Originally uploaded by kjda KJ Dell’Antonia sent from my iPhone

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Contrary to the Picture

By KJ / Friday, September 18, 2009

Contrary to the Picture Originally uploaded by kjda Rory quite liked the Ferris Wheel. KJ Dell’Antonia sent from my iPhone

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You Know What I Love? School! (Plus Activity Angst)

By KJ / Wednesday, September 30, 2009

School gives us a glorious level of consistency in our lives that I would otherwise be unable to achieve. Every morning, for four hours, there is ritual and order in Wyatt and Rory’s lives. Every day, for 6 hours, the same can be said for Lily. Every day, for seven hours, Sam is safe and surrounded by kids his own age, learning age-appropriate stuff at a school that suits him very well. And every day, when I get everybody back, […]

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When Lily is Sweet

By KJ / Wednesday, October 14, 2009

When Lily is Sweet Originally uploaded by kjda She is very very sweet. KJ Dell’Antonia sent from my iPhone

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And they’re off…

By KJ / Saturday, October 31, 2009

And they’re off… Originally uploaded by kjda Trick or Treating: Not My Department KJ Dell’Antonia sent from my iPhone

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Still Spooky After All These Days

By KJ / Sunday, November 8, 2009

Still Spooky After All These Days Originally uploaded by kjda KJ Dell’Antonia sent from my iPhone

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Tonight They Played Monopoly

By KJ / Tuesday, November 24, 2009

Sam and Lily’s favorite friends came over tonight, and all was quiet and peaceful in the playroom–oddly so. Rory was taking advantage of some snuggle time on the couch with the grown-ups (I’d be lying if I didn’t admit that was kind of annoying, but I try to keep in mind that her “family age” is different from her real age, and she needs all the snuggle time she can get), but what were the others doing? Playing Monopoly. This […]

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Christmas, Uninterrupted.

By KJ / Sunday, December 27, 2009

I do think we managed to savor Christmas. That Lego train? Put together in full by Sam and Grandpa, with occasional help from other kids. We played dominos (Mexican Train! from Lily to Sam!), did puzzles and baked cookies. Carols were sung, hummed and whistled all across the house, although not by me, because I have a cough and cold I can’t shake. Candy canes were eaten, stockings emptied, and even, in a few cases, thank-you notes written. And now […]

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One Sparkly Day

By KJ / Saturday, January 23, 2010

  One Sparkly Day Originally uploaded by kjda Post day exhaustion. THis was also me, trying out the multiple photo share option on the iPhone. Turns out they each come as a separate email.  Ok, got it. I love this picture–had to sneak to get it. I suspect Miss Thumb does not want to be recorded like this, although we’ve never objected to her thumb-sucking at all–in fact, we love it. For one thing, it helps her sleep, and for […]

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CRAZY SPORTS PARENTS or the MMMRPH MRRPH (or, Hockey Drama in Perspective)

By KJ / Monday, February 15, 2010

You may recall my muffled, angry comments about a mysterious local dispute I referred to as the “MPHOLLYPMHRPYLL MURPH MURPH Tempest, teapot MUMBLE MUTTER GRUPM GRIPE” in an earlier post (one too short to merit a link) and then questioned everyone about here, referring to the whole kerfluffle as “Thingy…” If so, or even if you don’t, prepare yourself for what has, thus far, made nearly everyone I’ve described it to giggle in its utter, insane, blown-out-of-proportion-ness. Here’s what I […]

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BoxSled Racing

By KJ / Saturday, March 6, 2010

BoxSled Racing Originally uploaded by kjda With Hannah Kearney at the start gate! KJ Dell’Antonia sent from my iPhone

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Sprinkler in April

By KJ / Friday, April 2, 2010

Sprinkler in April Originally uploaded by kjda KJ Dell’Antonia sent from my iPhone

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Go to Your Room. And Then Come Out.

By KJ / Wednesday, April 28, 2010

The go-to punishment in our house is a common one: go to your room. Now, I know that that’s a hot-button for Rory–go away from me, because you’re bad–and although she gets the sending, she rarely gets the leaving (other attempts, like a time-out chair and such, failed). She gets an immediate parental visit, a hug, a reminder of why she’s there, and nearly always, instant release–which she then inevitably refuses to take. I’ve talked about this before–how hard it […]

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My Lame Last Day Picnic

By KJ / Friday, June 11, 2010

My Lame Last Day Picnic Originally uploaded by kjda For the more elegant version, see below. I am having a bit of a crisis of confidence today, on many levels. On the one hand, you know how when you were a teenager, you dreamed that you would go away somewhere and come back changed? I feel like I did. We have been back for 14 days now, and I still haven’t lost my temper– which is what I mean by […]

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35 Miles!

By KJ / Saturday, July 10, 2010

35 Miles! Originally uploaded by kjda KJ Dell’Antonia sent from my iPhone

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Accepting a “Different Parenting Style”

By KJ / Thursday, July 22, 2010

The New York Times’ Motherlode blog has a plea for advice from a young mother who says parenting is “ruining her marriage.” I scarcely need to offer you a synopsis of her plaint: Essentially, she performs singing puppet shows with cutlery while her spouse is thumbing through his e-mail on his BlackBerry. Who hasn’t heard that before? In fact, this month’s Parents magazine highlights an argument so nearly identical to this one for its article on “How to Fight in […]

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Not a Baby

By KJ / Thursday, July 29, 2010

Not a Baby Originally uploaded by kjda In June, I was at the pool and kept hearing, I thought, Rory crying. Again and again I’d look and see … An angry baby, about a year old, making the noise Rory makes when she cries, exactly. And not the noise she makes when she really cries–the noise she makes when she fake cries because she’s angry, or needs attention, or is outraged at the general un fairness of life. I decided […]

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Worth the Late Night

By KJ / Friday, August 13, 2010

It was one of the rare goals of summer that I actually pulled off at our house: last night was the peak of the Perseid meteor showers, and my 9-year-old and I stayed up for it. In all honestly, it neared being a bust, clouds drifted overhead frequently, and he was so sleepy (I actually let him fall asleep outside, then went out and woke him at midnight for viewing) that I think he only clocked one or two meteors. […]

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It’s the First Day of School for the Adopted Kid!

By KJ / Wednesday, September 8, 2010

First Day of School #2! Today was Rory’s second “First Day of School.” There’s a new head teacher in Rory’s classroom this year; one who appears to have certain fairly defined expectations for how things will go. Last week, she invited each student to come in to meet her, bringing something to show her—a book, she suggested, or something important—and to see the changes in the classroom. We adopted 4-year-old Rory last summer, and she brought, as she will always […]

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Happy Birthday Rory!

By KJ / Thursday, September 23, 2010

Rory had a (mostly) glorious day, and we also had our first “adoption moment.” For Rory, it was special snack at school with a mommy visit (Rainbow meringues and rainbow fruit cups, an inspiration, because a) Rory doesn’t really like cupcakes and b) the school expressed some anti-cupcake thoughts, proposing “healthy cupcakes” or maybe “special cheese and crackers.” Neither of those would have worked for Rory, who has had rainbows on her mind ever since Wyatt’s birthday last March, when […]

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From Lily

By KJ / Monday, November 1, 2010

From Lily Originally uploaded by kjda I have been walking by this for a Week and just realized what it said. KJ Dell’Antonia sent from my iPhone —

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The Organizing Bug

By KJ / Monday, November 29, 2010

I have the New Year’s organizing bug, early. I can’t tell if I just want to get things in order (yes) or if I’m procrastinating a work assignment I’m having trouble with (yes). I guess it’s both. The basement is borderline organized, all kinds of things are planned out (including some holiday surprises that can’t be revealed here). My computer files are sorted. Backups are being arranged. It’s like it’s New Year’s Resolution season. I just want to GET STUFF […]

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A “Parenting on Track” Plot

By KJ / Friday, January 7, 2011

I’m a newly converted disciple of one Vicki Hoefle, parenting guru, who created the Parenting on Track program. My neighbor (flockmother) loaned it to me, and I quickly sprang for our own copies–which I am already loaning out. It’s a program that’s more about what YOU do than what your kids do–no starcharts or reward boxes, both of which have failed us–and one of the basic tenets is the idea of what Vicki calls “privileges and responsibilities.” Carrots and sticks […]

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Sam and Homework, Again

By KJ / Sunday, January 30, 2011

Thanks to everyone with thoughts on Sam’s homework situation last week. I did not make him quit an activity. One things has two practices, and the idea is that he cannot go to the second practice unless any longer term homework projects–as in, the ones that are assigned Monday and due Friday–are complete. Meanwhile, another literature assignment came home Friday, due Weds. And on Saturday I said, are you going to do it? And he said, I’ll do the reading. […]

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I Don’t Wanna Hafta

By KJ / Monday, February 28, 2011

I’m grumpy. I have no good reason to be grumpy, exactly. I just spent three nights–THREE–with just Sam at a hockey tournament, where I cooked nothing, cleaned little (our room was knee hockey headquarters for a while, so some cleaning was necessary) and put up with very little in the way of whining or complaint. (They lost. Lots. But we expected to, it was in MA and while we here in Hanover take our hockey way too seriously, we look […]

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Hello New York!

By KJ / Thursday, March 31, 2011

Hello New York! Originally uploaded by kjda KJ Dell’Antonia sent from my iPhone –

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